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Domestic violence against men - the embarrassing fact.

Domestic violence against men is far from always straightforward to detect, but it can be a life-threatening hazard to the abused person. How do you know if either you or someone you know is being mistreated in such as way as to be viewed as a victim of "domestic violence?" And where can you or they go to get information confidentially?

Beleive it or not, the fact is that women are not the only victims of domestic violence.

What are the warning signs of domestic violence against men?

Domestic violence is also known as domestic maltreatment, beating or other spouse or partner violence. It occurs most often between people living in a close relationship. Domestic violence against men will likely take many various forms, most notably mental, emotional, physical, sexual abuse and invariably the threats of mistreatment. Domestic violence happens without respect to sexual orientation. In fact, it happens in both in heterosexual and homosexual relationships.

Domestic violence against men is often tough to identify. But all too often here is what happens: soon in the new and usually intimate relationship, one person seems very attentive, remarkably giving and quite overly protective. Soon and in hindsight s/he turns out to be terribly inhibiting and quite often menacing. In the beginning with that person, the physical or mental abuse might appear as isolated incidents. And that's when the cycle of apologies and promises to not to do that abusive thing to you ever again.

In some domestic relationships, domestic violence against men might include both persons or partners play-slapping and/or shoving each other around when one or the other gets upset. Typically neither person sees himself or herself as being mistreated or manipulated. Regardless, the adverse affects of those types of disguised violence, however, it will devastate a marriage and leaving both persons with deep, long-lasting emotional scarring and physical injury.

Domestic violence against men happens both in private and even in public. Here are 17+ warning signs that you may very well be the victim of abuse:

1. Constant, belittling name calling 2. Repeatedly saying hurtful insults or personal put downs 3. Physically prevents you from going out to work or school 4. Slowly and eventually stops or cuts you off from seeing and talking to family, good friends, neighbors and especially strangers 5. Seeks to restrain how you spend your money 6. Tries to keep control on where you go and even what clothing you wear 7. Is or acts jealous and angrily so 8. Is extremely possessive 9. Frequently accuses you of cheating 10. Becomes an angry, beligerent drunk or gets crazy when high on drugs 11. Has a pistol or other dangerous items and uses them to threaten you with violence 12. Has a history of and may still abuse pets or small animals 13. Has hurt you and/or your children or elderly parent(s) 14. Has hit, punched, kicked, choked or otherwise assaulted you while you were sleeping, intoxicated or unable to defend yourself 15. Has raped or forced you to have sex or perform sex acts against your will (Never takes NO as a NO.) 16. Argues that you are really responsible for his or her violent actions or declares you that you therefore deserved the abuse 17. Outwardly to you and especially to other people portrays the violence as a joke or just consensual rough sex that it all is no big deal.

In short, if either you or someone you know has experienced any of the above signs of domestic abuse, or been the victim of domestic violence, then please stop right now and call your local police department and report them. There are laws prohibiting physical voilence and state and local resources to help and protect male and female victims of domestic violence.